Anxious, Stressed, Depressed – You are not alone!
Has your life started to feel small and rigid because you have to stick to your routine to feel stable?
Is your life lacking pleasure because you are so used to feeling numb?
Are you always preparing for the worst. As well as struggling to let go of tense feelings, even when you try to sleep at night?
Maybe you’re loosing sleep and find yourself thinking, and worrying in the middle of the night?
Maybe you feel sad all of the time, or you just can’t be bothered doing anything or seeing anybody anymore?
A common struggle
The reality is that mental health is something virtually all of us deal with at one point or another, and almost no one is immune from depression and anxiety whether or not it’s in their biological makeup.
In my time working with people, it’s become apparent to me just how many of us have these kinds of struggles.
Triggers can come at any age. Teenagers worried about college, young professionals worn down by work demands, parents undergoing lifestyle shifts following childbirth, older people who may be isolated or have poor diets are just a few examples. Depression and anxiety can even affect young children.
Maybe it’s anxiety that creeps in when you get to work and feel surrounded by so many smart people and you don’t know how you’re going to hit the same targets you did in your last role; or depression that sinks in after a relationship ends; or an eating disorder that manifests itself now; or any of the myriad personality disorders that often come to light in one’s life, exactly at the most inconvenient time.
Maybe it’s some combination of these challenges, or maybe you don’t even know what it is, you just know something doesn’t feel right. Whatever it is, no one should feel that they need to keep these concerns so close to the chest.
Depression and anxiety can manifest in adults in a number of ways. With depression, it can feel like a loss of energy and a shutting down or withdrawal. Feelings of helplessness, hopelessness, loss of interest in activities that used to bring joy, feelings of being a failure, of not being good enough, thoughts of self-harm, changes in eating behaviours and sleep patterns can all symptoms.
Anxiety is often about the thoughts that plague sufferers. People get trapped in their think, thinking and the mind says, ‘what if something bad happens?’ ‘What if things aren’t okay?’ and it goes on from there. Getting trapped in our thoughts is not an effective way to handle life when it feels hard or scary.
Regardless what is happening for you, depression, anxiety, grief, having relationship difficulties, suffering from a trauma, maybe an eating disorder, or just feeling like something is missing, counselling can help.
We’re in this together
Everyone struggles with mental health in one way or another, and admitting you have a problem or need help is not a sign of weakness. Rather, it’s a sign of strength that you care enough about yourself and your well-being to know when you need to take care of yourself by letting others in.
If you’re feeling like you need help, don’t be afraid to seek it, whether that be counselling, talking to loved ones, or letting your friends know what it is you’re dealing with. More likely than not, once you open up, others will open up too, and you’ll realize you’re nowhere near alone in dealing with whatever it is.
Your mental health issues don’t need to define you, but opening up about them is critical part of taking ownership over your well-being and taking the best steps to make sure you’re set up to tackle all of life’s challenges.
No matter your age, if you think you have depression or anxiety, any mental health condition, or you’re just wanting someone neutral to talk to, it is important to take action. Get in touch and together we can start your healing journey.
How Can I Help
Imagine being covered by a large filter so that part of your current experience is completely blocked from your awareness while other parts are exaggerated or highlighted by the filter. It may sound weird, but this is precisely how we experience reality every day of our lives.
The negative core beliefs (others known as emotional wounds or triggers) you may have about yourself, such as “I’m not worthy”, or “the world is an unsafe place” distort your reality. The more unconscious and intense triggers, the more this filter distorts your experience. The more self-aware you are, the better you are able to discern the truth of a situation.
Your triggers, act as filters to how you experience and interpret the world in your day to day life. You might ask, “Aren’t we all aware of those core beliefs about ourselves and the world?” Not necessarily. Wounds or negative beliefs are often partly if not totally unconscious, distorting your perception of reality without you even knowing it.
Becoming aware of your triggers gives you more control over your emotional responses so they can be appropriate and even more moderated if they are not useful or productive. Awareness and mindfulness creates responsibility to recognise your triggering situations so you can change your unconscious reactions, leading you to wiser thoughts and responses.
Come and work with me if you are ready to explore what your triggers might be and how they might be causing you to react to things in your world.
How We Can Work Together
When life seems confusing and chaotic I support you to find peace and restore balance to your life. Whether you’re struggling with negative beliefs, depression, anxiety, anger, or grief. Your heart might feel broken. You might find yourself falling into the same patterns even with all the therapy you’ve already done. I’ve been there. I’m here to help you release old beliefs and energy which might be keeping you stuck, and learn how to heal from your most painful experiences.